❖ Woo yourself to prove you're woo-worthy ❖
You may think of wearing lingerie as something you do for your partner. That's how I used to see it. But the problem with that is it becomes a chore. A begrudging duty. Like a birthday BJ. It's appreciated by your partner but leaves you both feeling not fully satisfied. The lingerie might look sexy but if your attitude sucks so will the result. That's because if by putting it on you feel awkward, self-conscious and wondering if this is what your partner is after, then you aren't feeling like a sexy vixen which is actually what your partner really wants (and what you need in order to enjoy yourself too, by the way).
I guarantee your partner would be happy with just you in just your birthday suit from now until eternity as long as that suit comes without insecurities, self-doubt, and a lack of libido. He/she doesn't need the sexy lingerie to be turned on by you. The lingerie is for you, my dear. To seduce yourself. To convince the girl in the mirror that she's so sexy and luscious that you can't help sharing all of her with the person you love.
TRUTH: You can't love others to your full potential if you don't love yourself. I don't want to get too deep philosophically - this is a blog about ouvert undies and nipple pasties after all - but this is fundamentally true. If you are plagued by self-doubt, low confidence and you regularly do things you are not proud of (like wearing mis-matched frumpy undergarments), you're not going to want to share yourself fully and be vulnerable with anyone else.
So find lingerie that YOU prefer. Something YOU love and makes you think "Damn, Gurl!" when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror. Something that feels like love on your skin and enhances your own estimation of beauty. Have small, perky boobies? Sexy lace bralette. A beautiful back? Go backless. Luscious boobies? Plunge bra or corset. Risqué personality? Something see-though or crotchless. There absolutely is lingerie you will feel amazing in. And it's probably not the same lingerie that looks amazing on a 5'11" 34-24-34 runway model (unless you happen to be a 5'11" runway model, of course). And it's also probably not something for under $30, though that's not to say you have to spend a fortune either. There are many excellent, reasonably-priced brands that make art out of fabric like French brand, Simone Pérèle. Romantic lace, delicate details, and elegant lines feel most natural, effortless, and flattering on my body so the Celeste set I'm wearing is a go-to of mine. And I snagged this three-piece set for $125 (30% off retail) on online lingerie boutique site Vogaine.
So I advise seducing the girl you see in the mirror. Selfishly choose and put on sexy, empowering lingerie just for you. Wear it at home by yourself or under your outfit for the day. Look and feel beautiful just for you. Because you’ll walk differently, hold yourself in higher regard and, yes, you’ll feel sexy. My guess is someone will get an unexpected romp in the boudoir. Being selfish can lead you to be more giving and generous - and all that happy humping will benefit you as much as your romp-mate, which can end up being a bit selfish, right? It's a beautiful cycle.