Sealing the Deal
I still remember the horror. Walking through a big discount store with my mother as a very young bride-to-be, and she pauses at a purple, feathery, cheap-satiny teddy with massive bows and teases, "This is what you're gonna wear on your wedding night."
Discount store, sex-related conversation with my mother, cheap lingerie, teasing... It's a modern day miracle I didn't implode. Maybe I had a stroke and I've imagined the last umpteen years of my life.
Regardless, I want brides to have a better resource than I did.
Many brides have their perfect dress in mind, but with all of the other minute details that go into planning a wedding, sometimes wedding night lingerie gets forgotten. Post-nuptial lingerie should be special, and it is a great way to kick-off one of the most anticipated nights of a couple's relationship. If there is one time in life that luxury lingerie is called for, this would be it. (Personally I think it's called for on days that end with 'y' but not everyone agrees with me).
As I mentioned in my last post, white lingerie is the obvious place to start. But there is a lot to be said for light greys, soft blues, creamy nudes and lavenders if they compliment one's skintone.
Although there is not one specific type of wedding night lingerie, I recommend something gartered - a set with multiple pieces to slowly and romantically peel off. The bra-garterbelt-knicker-stockings-high heels combo for me is the classic option.
Like the wedding dress, lingerie needs to be tried on well in advance. Partly for getting the size and fit right, and partly to practice putting it on. The big day can be exhausting and the last thing the newly-betrothed wants with all the sexual tension in the air is to fumble with complicated straps or a [unintentional] wardrobe malfunction.
And many brides-to-be shed a few pounds in the months or weeks leading up to the wedding. Other than those few lucky ladies who only lose belly fat when they workout, body shape and fit may change. All that exercise might result in less fullness up top so it is worth considering a slightly smaller cup than practical for everyday bras. Even if there isn't any shrinkage, a little bit of spillage over the top of your bra lends itself to the full throttle flirtation theme that will likely be unfolding that night and/or the nights that follow. (I am not talking about the bra worn under the wedding gown! I highly advocate a wardrobe change before the fireworks).
Even if your budget is soaked up by the chicken Marsala dinners and a live band-- please, please, please do not revert to a certain "Secret" store for your wedding lingerie. For the same price or maybe a couple chicken dinners more you'll find options at some (not all) of my favorite ateliers. Simply don't invite your mom's neighbor Sue and her pony-tailed boyfriend, save yourself the money on those chicken dinners and fund your nuptial lace. Consider it a better-than-even trade.
Here are some places to start your search:
- Elle & Cee - beautiful selection and bespoke options, London
- Fréolic - almost the entire lineup is wedding-esque, London
- Gooseberry - fab chic and affordable, Bali
- Agent Provocateur - luxury in every sense, London
- Bluebella - striking yet affordable, London
- Bordelle - kinky luxury, London
- Bracli - if pearls are your thing, Spain
- La Perla - art for your skin, Italy
- Aubade - for the femme fatale, Paris
- And if you prefer to shop several brands at once, including several of the above, I highly recommend Beautifully Undressed (based in the UK), Brigade Mondaine (based in France) and Better Than Cheesecake (based in the USA).